How many guests should you invite?
This is the first decision worth making and the one most couples make last. Every other number in the budget follows from it, because catering β the largest single cost β multiplies by headcount and nothing else does.
There is no correct number. But there is a way to arrive at yours that does not involve a spreadsheet argument in month nine.
Updated 5 min readStellanza wedding planning team
Start from the budget, not from the list
Most couples write a list, add it up, and get a shock. Reverse it: decide what you can spend, divide by the per-guest cost in your area, and that is your ceiling. Then build a list that fits.
The ceiling is not the whole budget β catering is typically 40β50% of it. Divide roughly half your total by the per-guest price and you have a realistic maximum.
Total budget Γ 0.45 Γ· per-guest cost = the number of people you can actually afford. Do this before writing a single name.
The A-list and B-list, done honestly
A B-list is not rude, but a badly run one is. The mechanics that work: send A-list invitations early enough that declines come back before you need to send the second wave, and never let a B-list guest receive an invitation so late that the timing is obvious.
In practice that means sending the A-list about three months out and closing the B-list two months out. If you cannot make that window work, your list is not too long β your timeline is.
- Rank the list into three tiers before anyone sees it: certain, likely, and only-if-space.
- Send tier one first, with an RSVP date early enough to leave room for tier two.
- Keep the tiers private. The only unforgivable version of this is the guest who finds out.
- Never seat tier three at a table where everyone else knows each other β it makes them feel like filler.
How many actually come
Plan for a decline rate. Local weddings with mostly local guests typically see 10β15% decline; a destination wedding or one requiring an overnight stay can lose 20β30% or more.
This matters because most venues charge a guaranteed minimum. Guaranteeing 120 and having 95 turn up means paying for 120. Estimate declines honestly and guarantee the number you actually expect, not the number you invited.
Frequently asked questions
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Every figure above comes from one of these. Wedding prices move quickly β check the date beside a source before you rely on it.
Plan it in one place
Guest list, RSVPs, seating and budget in a single shared workspace, kept in sync as replies arrive.